12 Relationship truths we must always remember

It’s easy to make your relationships more complicated than they are.  Here are twelve simple reminders to help you keep them on course. All successful relationships require some work. – They don’t just happen, or maintain themselves.  They exist and thrive when the parties involved take the risk of sharing what it is that’s going on in their minds and hearts.  Open communication and honesty is the key. Most of the time you get what you put in. – If you want love, give love.  If you want friends, be friendly.  If you’d like to feel understood, try being more understanding.  It’s a simple practice that works.(Una hear?) You shouldn’t have to fight for a spot in someone’s life. – Never force someone to make a space in their life for you, because if they know your worth, they will create one for you. (GBAM!) There is a purpose for everyone you meet. – Some people will test you, some will use you, and some will teach you; but most importantly some will bring out the best in you.  Learn to see and accept the differences between these people, and carry on accordingly. We all change, and that’s okay. – Our needs change with time.  When someone says, “You’ve changed,” it’s not always a bad thing.  Sometimes it just means you stopped living your life their way.  Don’t apologize for it.  Instead, be open and sincere, explain how you feel, and keep doing what you know in your heart is right.( I just love dis one) You are in full control of your own happiness. – If your relationship with yourself isn’t working, don’t expect your other relationships to be any different.  Nobody else in this world can make you happy.  It’s something you have to do on your own.  And you have to create your own happiness first before you can share it with someone else.  If you feel that it’s your partner’s fault, think again, and look within yourself to find out what piece is missing.  Your partner can never ‘complete’ you because you are already whole.  The longing for completion that you feel inside comes from being out of touch with who you are. Forgiving others helps YOU. – Forgiveness is not saying, “What you did to me is okay.”  It is saying, “I’m not going to let what you did to me ruin my happiness forever.”  Forgiveness is the answer.  It doesn’t mean you’re erasing the past, or forgetting what happened. It means you’re letting go of the resentment and pain, and instead choosing to learn from the incident and move on with your life. You can’t change people; they can only change themselves. – Instead of trying to change others, give them your support and lead by example.  If there’s a specific behavior someone you love has that you’re hoping disappears over time, it probably won’t.  If you really need them to change something, be honest and put all the cards on the table so this person knows what you need them to do. Heated arguments are a waste of time. – The less time you spend arguing with the people who hurt you, the more time you’ll have to love the people who love you.  And if you happen to find yourself arguing with someone you love, don’t let your anger get the best of you.(Hmmmm....)  Give yourself some time to calm down and then gently discuss the situation.  You are better off without some people. – When you have to start compromising yourself and your morals for the people around you, it’s probably time to change the people around you. If someone continuously mistreats you or pushes you in the wrong direction, have enough respect for yourself to walk away from them. (Sharp sharp....no dulling) It may hurt for a little while, but it’ll be ok. You’ll be ok, and far better off in the long run. Small gestures of kindness go a long way. – Honor your important relationships in some way every chance you get.  Every day you have the opportunity to make your relationship sweeter and deeper by making small gestures to show your appreciation and affection.  Remember, making one person smile can change the world.  Maybe not the whole world, but their world.  Your kindness and gratitude matters. Even the best relationships don’t last forever. – People don’t live forever.  Appreciate what you have, who loves you and who cares for you.  You’ll never know how much they mean to you until the day they are no longer beside you.  And remember, just because something doesn’t last forever, doesn’t mean it wasn’t worth your while.

Woman rapes man

A bar lady in Chitungwiza who forced a 27-year-old mentally challenged man to be intimate with her was on Monday sentenced to an effective seven years in jail. Patience Mbulaje (25) of Zengeza 4 who was employed at Dande Bar denied aggravated indecent assault charges when she appeared before Chitungwiza regional magistrate Ms Estere Chivasa. Ms Chivasa found her guilty of the offence after the prosecutor Ms Joice Fusire proved a solid case against her. She was sentenced to 10 years in prison, but had three years of the sentence suspended on condition she did not commit a similar offence in the next five years. In assessing the appropriate sentence, Ms Chivasa noted that first female offenders deserve lenient sentences depending on the nature of the crime, but in this case there was nothing the court could do. "Aggravated indecent assault is punishable as rape which has a term of imprisonment not exceeding 20 years and there is no option of a fine since it is a serious offence," she said.

Robber's visit female youth corper's

There has been robbery cases going on in the FCT Camp at Kubwa. Yesterday Armed robbers invaded the camp and robbed one of the female hostel, specifically Block CC. They took their time to rob everyone in the hostel. the ladies there shouted for help but due to the fact the hostels are far from each other, no help came their way. When we reported the issue to the Soldiers this morning, they told us plainly that their duty is to discipline us and not to protect us. They took away fones and cash though we are yet to be paid our allowee. We hear they will stil come when we are paid. Please someone should help us take this to the authorities to avert more of this occurences. The calm with which they operated make us fear that they might even molest female corp members. Please some should help escalate this issue.

Stay away from married men - karen Igho

 Big Brother Amplified joint winner, Karen Igho, who is also an On Air Personality (OAP) with Naija FM, has dropped a message for girls who run after married men and guys with girlfriends. She has warned that the law of karma awaits them because they will get what they do in full measure, shaken, pressed down and overflowing.  "Girls, stay away from married men or guys with girlfriends because what goes around comes back around (karma)," the Warri, Delta State Nigerian entertainer and model tweeted.

10 KEYS TO LIFE.

These are essential factors that makes life worth living 1.Our doubts are traitors, and make us lose the good we oft might win, by fearing to attempt. 2.You cannot dream yourself into a character: you must hammer and forge yourself into one. 3.Character lives in a man, reputation outside of him. 4.Arguing with a fool proves there are two. 5. Be courteous to all, but intimate with few; and let those be well-tried before you give them your confidence. 6.Everything that happens to us leaves some trace behind; everything contributes imperceptibly to make us what we are. 7.In prosperity, our friends know us; in adversity, we know our friends. 8.It has been my philosophy of life that difficulties vanish when faced boldly. 9.Deliver your words not by number but by weight. 10.Happy is the man who can do only one thing; in doing it, he fulfills his destiny.

Man dies in pit laterine

A commuter bus driver plying Ikeja-Obalende route, Lagos State, southwest Nigeria fell inside a pit latrine and died this morning. As at press time, the body of the driver, Mr. Mutiu Owo, who lived at 7 Alimotu Sadia Street, Alagbole, off Coker Street, Cele Bus Stop, where the incident happened, was yet to be removed from the pit latrine by Fire Service men from Akute, Lagos who were contacted by residents of the area. A resident, Prophet Soji Ademuyiwa of Celestial Church Ogudu Parish, Lagos said the driver, an indigene of Ekiti State, fell inside the pit latrine when he wanted to urinate around 9am after the heavy rainfall today. Ademuyiwa said the driver, a father of two, who was in his 20s, wanted to take his bath but when he found out that a co-tenant was bathing, went to ease himself in another toilet, which was dilapidated. Dora's gist learnt that the tenants of the house where the incident occurred had complained about the bad state of the latrine to the landlady who does not live in the house, but no effort has been made to repair it. Dora's gist gathered that the condition of the toilet worsened this morning because of the heavy rainfall. Residents of the area have besieged the house to sympathize with Owo's wife, who sells fruits at Alade Market, Ikeja Lagos, while the efforts were being made to remove his body from the latrine. Owo's wife was yet to be informed about his death as she has threatened to kill herself if he died.

Tonto Dikeh "trends"....the ongoing negative comments about this babe may be to her favour afterall

What's with all dis beef and "yabis"about pretty actress cum singer??? I just listened to one of her song's,"it's ova" and its really not that bad atleast for a starter. But I think all this negative gists has to do with her reecent twitter (e-war) fight. Anywayz ,thumbs gal,there's always s first time

Evil mom superglues baby's hand to the wall

A Texas judge has sentenced a mother who superglued her toddler’s hands to a wall to 99 years in prison, local media reported Saturday. During the September 2011 assault on her two-year-old daughter, Elizabeth Escalona also beat the girl into a coma, according to The Dallas Morning News. The 23-year-old mother of five had pleaded guilty in July to felony injury to a child. “I hit her, I kicked her constantly, and she didn’t deserve that,” the newspaper’s crime blog quoted Escalona as saying in court last week. “Only a monster does that.” According to the blog, the abuse — which resulted in bleeding of the girl’s brain — appeared to be over potty training. Before handing down the sentence, Judge Larry Mitchell said Escalona needed to be punished for savagely beating her child “to the edge of death.” The daughter survived and, according to testimony referenced by the blog, is doing well.

Dino Melaye's wife attacks him on his adulterous affairs

Madam Dino finally opens up on hubbys latest news. Coming from the pregnancy mess controversial former Kogi lawmaker, Dino Melaye has been involved in with light skinned Yoruba actress, Bisi Ibidapo Obe, his legal wife, Tokunbo, has shown her displeasure over the matter. Dino, known for his 'fight' against bad governance, has reportedly denied vehemently the responsibility of the pregnancy of Bisi, who he reportedly dated for some months before now. Dino and Tokunbo are married with three children. Reacting to the pregnancy tale her husband is entangled in, Tokunbo took to twitter to tweet some sarcastic tweets about the issue, which has lingered on for some weeks now. She first questioned a lady on why she would use Dino picture as a profile picture on her handle. "hi babes, just wondering why you have my husband's pix as your avatar?! I'm so sure he's not the 'D' (Dino)?! she queried Her other tweets and retweets read, "You have a Masters degree in lying, but I have a PHD in detecting bullsh*t! Don't lose yourself, trying to hold on to someone who doesn't care about losing you! If you want me, show me. If you need me, tell me. If you have me, show me off. If I'm worth it, fight for me. "Trust is like paper…Once it’s crumpled, it can’t be perfect again. There's a limit to what one can take, if you keep piling load on the camels back, there comes a point that back will surely break! Never lie to the girl of your life, for the girl of the night. "If you succeed in cheating someone, don't think that the person is a fool ... realize that the person trusted you much more than you deserve. I forgive a lot, but I never forget what's said and done." Tokunbo then concluded her set of tweets with "I rest my case, I hold my peace. One day the truth will [be] 'out' and everyone will know what you are! :-D (Dino?)."